Some couples go round and round, having the same arguments and never getting anywhere. Even though nothing is resolved, they can’t help falling into the same worn-out pattern over and over again. Couples caught on this behavioral merry-go-round need to slow down and start listening for the true meaning underneath what they’re saying. Often the meaning below the demands and requests is the need to feel loved, respected, or valued. Each person needs to explore what they’re really asking for. Once partners understand what they really want, the next step is to share those needs with each other. Then each partner can help the other understand what the needs are and how to meet them.
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