To have lasting friendships, you must be a friend to yourself first. Many people waste a lot of time with depressing inner judgments, before beginning the practice of compassionate self-acceptance. Fearing that their defects will be discovered, people will cling to fake images of themselves, and try to hide what they perceive as unacceptable inadequacies. A true friendship involves being real. It takes a lot of courage, but to have a “friendship on fire,” you need to dump a lot of baggage and risk rejection. In a lasting friendship, you are vulnerable, yet safe. You come home to yourself, and nourish the deep desire to be known and accepted.
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