Choose Your Battles: Fighting Less in Relationships

As Richard Carlson said, “A more peaceful way to live is to decide consciously which battles are worth fighting and which are better left alone.” For couples who believe every battle must be fought, relationships can become toxic. In healthy relationships, couples understand the difference between problems and small stuff. Couples who don’t are possibly dealing with deeper issues, including the possibility that they’re in the wrong relationship. The article goes on to list five problems that explain why it can be difficult to leave the small stuff alone, from harboring resentment or anger to the possibility that it’s time to leave, and offers solutions and advice to turn things around.

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