Most complaints that partners have about each other boil down to being egocentric. Partners get stuck on their perspective, expectations, or position, blaming the other for why their needs are not met. We can’t see our partner’s brilliance, intentions, and love when being egocentric. We can’t be mindful and loving; our behavior is reactive and calculated. Egocentrism comes from fear and causes pain. Our ego is out to protect us, unfortunately — to our detriment — it forges “separateness,” promoting additional fear and pain. What we desired in the first place, being connected, accepted, and loved, is impossible to get when we operate from this place.
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