To move toward resolution during times of distress and conflict, it’s necessary to do the one thing we desire most to avoid: become vulnerable. The peace of understanding will not come as a result of efforts to get our partner to stop fighting and start listening. It will more likely come as a result of the openness that arises out of a willingness to disarm ourselves of our verbal defenses. This requires us to give our partner (who probably looks more like an opponent at this point) the receptivity and honesty that we want him or her to give us. This kind of vulnerability takes trust and courage.
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